As a hospice chaplain and spiritual care provider I have worked with hundreds of families around end of life issues and can take the fear and conflict out of the process for you. Issues like communication with your family, filling out Advance Directives, life and pain management, grief counseling and home or green funeral arrangements can all be talked about and handled to give you comfort and peace of mind. Pricing for end of life services for individuals and couples is done on a sliding scale from $95 – $145/hr. You choose where you belong on that sliding scale. Call for larger group or family prices.
Preparing for a Good Death
Getting ready to die, spiritually, emotionally and practically is also living well for as long as you have left. I can help you think about, address and talk about the things that need attention while there is still time. Some of the issues to address:
Difficult conversations with loved ones about your wishes
Hospice, palliative care and pain management
Filling out Advance Directive and Living Will
Conflict resolution within the family
Reconciling with your past
What happens after death?
Finding spiritual solace and comfort
Leaving behind a record of your life – passing along lessons to your family
Planning for your memorial ceremony and burial or cremation
Death with Dignity: End of Life Option Act (AB15)
In June of 2016 California legislature passed a new “death with dignity” law that gives people who qualify the option of choosing to end their life with dignity using a “aid in dying” drug. I provide education on the law, consult on whether or not you or someone you love might qualify to use the law. We can talk about alternatives to aid in dying like palliative care, hospice or sedation.
Advance Directive forms can be confusing and intimidating. Let me get rid of the confusion and guide you through the process. Having an Advance HealthCare Directive is essential to receiving the kind of care you want at the end of your life or if you become incapacitated. If you do not have an Advance Directive on file your fate is entirely up to the medical system – if you don’t have one when the time comes when you can not choose, the choice is up to the health care system.
Grief and Loss Counseling
Every loss can be experienced as a death. With loss comes grief – whether or not we process that grief and actively engage with the healing process is up to us. If we don’t process our losses and our griefs, we end up living with the suffering as emotional scar tissue instead of growing through the suffering into fuller, healthier selves. Grieving our losses is not easy. There is no short-cut but there is a way through the suffering that leaves us more whole and healthy and honors the essence of who or what we have lost.
Dementia and Alzheimer’s
It is said that living with a loved one with dementia is living with “the permanent presence of absence.” How do you handle the challenge of the loss of your spouse or parent who is physically still here but is also longer here as the person you knew for your whole life? Learn how to communicate effectively with your loved one and how to take care of yourself at the same time.
One Last Sail
Take to the water for one last exhilarating adventure sail before a big loss, while there is still life and mobility. For those who have lived their lives on, near or close to the water or simply for those who are coming near to the end of their lives or physical abilities, a sail on the ocean in the company of loved ones can be healing and leave you with a precious memory of peace, exhilaration and adventure. Let the wind lead you. Let the water give you peace.